Japanese girls dating culture
In Western dating one would only tell someone “I love you” after being boyfriend and girlfriend for a good amount of time.One says those words only with someone they feel they want to spend the rest of their lives with.I’ve included my thoughts as a Westerner on Japanese dating culture for that reason.Virgin or veteran, I feel for any Westerner or Easterner who dates or aspires to date inter-culturally this is worth a read. You might just understand the other half a little better after this.Westerners try not to say those words until they are sure of that feeling. But even telling someone “I like you” can be tricky.Saying those words makes the thing real and in the open.The Easterner will think the Westerner only wants to sleep with him/her and doesn’t want an actual relationship.Since we in the West use kissing as an expression of romantic intent and as a stepping stone to building a relationship, it can be especially confusing and frustrating.
In the group, you focus almost solely on the one you are interested in. This allows each of you to gauge how you feel about being alone with the other.
I don’t just mean sex, but kissing and I think even hand holding. Attempting a kiss can make a Japanese person think you are only interested in sex or a physical relationship and not a serious or romantic relationship. For example, often a Westerner will want to kiss someone they are seeing and the Easterner doesn’t want to be kissed yet.
The Westerner will think the Easterner isn’t interested in a relationship with him/her.
I can best describe it as courting with initial ambiguity.
Things also move much more slowly than in the west.